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( Mar. 22nd, 2011 03:09 pm)
Just 'cause I can and it's been a while:

From Yes Means Yes:
Mythcommunication: It’s Not That They Don’t Understand, They Just Don’t Like The Answer
Long story short: in conversation, “no” is disfavored, and people try to say no in ways that soften the rejection, often avoiding the word at all. People issue rejections in softened language, and people hear rejections in softened language, and the notion that anything but a clear “no” can’t be understood is just nonsense. First, the notion that rape results from miscommunication is just wrong. Rape results from a refusal to heed, rather than an inability to understand, a rejection. Second, while the authors of the paper say that this makes all rape prevention advice about communicating a clear “no” pointless, I have a different take. Clear communication of “no” isn’t primarily going to avoid miscommunication — rather, it’s a meta-message. Clear communication against the undercurrent that “no” is rude and should be softened is a sign of the willingness to fight, to yell, to report.

From Dangerous Women:
Queer Feminist Porn – OR A Look at How We View Sex, Sexwork, and Pornography
This one started off as a comment on My Sex Professor and quickly developed into a post of its own.
Sex = filthy-bad-dirty-dangerous-death
Women = perma-prey/victims with no agency or autonomy
Sexwork = a filthy-bad-dirty-dangerous-deadly industry where women with no agency or autonomy are perpetually preyed-upon and victimized.

See how that goes?

From The Curvature:
Louisiana Law Forces Many Sex Workers to Register as Sex Offenders
Well, fucking hell. :-P
Upon release, she was forced to register in the state’s sex offender database. The words “sex offender” now appear on her driver’s license. “I have tried desperately to change my life,” she says, but her status as a sex offender stands in the way of housing and other programs. “When I present my ID for anything,” she says, “the assumption is that you’re a child molester or a rapist. The discrimination is just ongoing and ongoing.”
Eve was penalized under Louisiana’s 205-year-old Crime Against Nature statute, a blatantly discriminatory law that legislators have maneuvered to keep on the state’s books for the purpose of turning sex workers into felons.

In completely different news:

The new Stone Telling is up. YAY! :-D Go check it out, check it out! <*makes shooing motions*>

And: So You Think You Can Budget.
It's totally not ideal, but it's what I came up with. <*shrug*>


In other news: Ghost and I have been asked to carry the POWER banner at Annie Sprinkle's White Wedding. Whee! :-D <*wonders if Raynedaze is signed up to the be The Objector*>

So now we seriously have to find some appropriate clothing. I mean, yes, I've got a white (ish) dress that would totally work. But I'd like something a little different (and not polyester). Soemthing I could potentially dye blue or purple or crimson after the fact.

I've got a really simple wrap-dress pattern that could be put together quickly out of a second-hand bedsheet and then adapted from there... :-) Would love to put together a crown of silver holly and icicles... Hrm...
Damn this low-income situation!
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( Jul. 2nd, 2010 09:56 am)
Genre Writers! The Verb Noire call for submissions is up!

Return of the revenge of the daughter of the Welfare Queen
Related Link: Those Obscene Octuplets (an analysis of why Nadya Suleman's enormous family has been so media-plagued).

Intersections and Organizing (on the intersection of privilege and oppression in GLB(T) Rights Organizing).

Que(e)rying Sex Ed (on what kind of sex one is educated about in public schools).

Lots of potentially triggering stuff below, fyi:

On the Streets: The Federal (U.S.) Response to Homeless Q/T Youth

'I Was Scared to Sleep': LGBT Youth Face Violence Behind Bars

Scotland's Anti-Rape Ad Tackles "She Was Asking For It"

Tales from a Survivor about abusers and behaviour patterns.
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( Jun. 28th, 2010 01:20 pm)
So Harriet J has a new blog-site up, and has moved all of her (stunning, amazing, spot-on) posts over to the new site. So I link, for your ease and convenience.

Another Post About Rape (The Post that Said It All)
Reaction Part I
Reaction Part II
Another Post About Force
Another Post About Force Pt. 2
So the douche-bag doctor who was mutilating little girls at CORNELL (WTF[1]) and then feeling them up (story here)?

Copperbadge has a handy list of links and email addresses you can use to communicate how wrong-wrong-wrong this all is.

I though I aught to share.

- Amazon.

[1] This fuck was doing this in Ithaca??? Merciful fuck...
Some depressing links. Woo. Hoo. ...à

From The Guardian:
Rape: the sinister blame game.

From The Sexist:
Victim Blaming and Transgender Rape Victims -- Trigger warning. There are some really hateful comments quoted in this. The combination of rape apologism and transmisogyny is pretty horrific. Some of you may want to skip this one. O.O

From Modus Dopens:
Pervasiveness of reproductive coercion. This one is really good, I think.

On a Non-Depressing Note (also from The Guardian):
Out in the Country -- on queer youth in rural areas. Cool. :-)

[EDIT: Also, from the Debunking Cis comm: Cisgenderism and Cissexism. Interesting distinction. Shades of Julia. Just thought I'd throw it out there. /EDIT]
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( Jan. 20th, 2010 02:13 pm)
Check out what Reyl wrote: Make a Promise, Put an End to Rape (trigger warning for Sexual Assault).
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( Jan. 13th, 2010 01:18 pm)
Call for Papers: Demystifying Sex Work.

Compulsive Heterosexuality and Rape Culture (trigger warning for sexual and physical abuse in highschools).

Go. Read. Act.
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( Dec. 5th, 2009 12:41 pm)
From feministe:
Rape: The Method. Potentially triggering.

So, some dude wrote up a "satire" (uh-huh...) about how-to-rape. Does not function as satire.
DOES function as a how-to manual for rapists.


He didn't think that any rape-survivors might read it. :-(

<*feels slightly sick*>
From Harlot's Parlour:
Attraction, Objectification, and sexual Culture.

From Shapely Prose:
Schrödinger’s Rapist -- You've seen this one before.

From Daisy's Dead Air:
Andrea Dworkin on Transgender -- No, really. Actually decent.
So. I was reading one of the articles on Yes Means Yes, and it linked to a couple of articles about the Open Source Boob Project. Which means I've spent the last two+ hours reading about the FAIL.

And now I wanna linkspam you all. (Lucky monkeys. ;-)

Springheel_Jack on Open Source Male Assholes.

No No Ojou-Chan says "You Can Not HAZ!"

Synecdochic explains how to Avoid Being That Guy.

Timjr offers A Straight Geek Male's Guide to Interaction with Females.


Ambling Along the Aqueduct offers a discussion on Men and Women in Public Space.

Tangentially Related Links:

Lizzard Amazon's The Slut Manifesto (written, she warns, at a fairly young age).

The Pervocracy talks about Kink and Boundaries in both A Strange Kinship AND Management Has the Right to Refuse Service.


On a lighter note, Five Geek Social Fallacies -- Funny as Hell. :-D
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( Nov. 12th, 2009 12:54 pm)
Can I get a signal boost on this article from Yes Means Yes?

Meet the Predators

As it happens, if you don't use the 'R' word, rapists will tell you that they're rapists and how they choose their victims.

[EDIT: Follow-Up/Related Article from The Sexist: Rapists Who Don't Think They're Rapists. /EDIT]
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( Oct. 27th, 2009 12:00 pm)
So, I'm currently unemployed and, a such, am spending my time badgering temp agencies, writing porn, making jewelery, and launching a wordpress blog.

As such, the Links of the Day posts are probably not going to be anywhere near as frequent (in part because I'm also doing a links-post for the wordpress blog which, while somewhat more sporadic, means I'll probably just be linking to stuff on there).

That said, the wordpress blog - Dangerous Women - is fairly themeatic so the more personal or more random things I'd like to link to are still going to end up in LJ (or Dreamwidth, since I'm posting this from there).

That said, let's begin:

From Feministing:
A Barbie that really represents black women -- Loanne Hizo Ostlie re-makes barbie dolls with long, lush dred locks. Gorgeous. Check this out.

From The Avalon Sexual Assault Centre:
What Is Sexual Assault - a definition.

From Carnal Nation:
A Couple Quits Therapy; What Is “Normal” Desire? -- Other than the age difference and the presence of a daughter, this sounds exactly like me and my ex. Eight billion things wrong with our *relationship* and us going "what's wrong with our sex life"? It's pretty sad and terrible, really. :-P

From Dangerous Women[1]
Sexual and Bodily Autonomy Today - A link round-up where you'll find the rest of the Links of the Day.

- Amazon.

[1] My blog, for-which Hyel has kindly made a dreamwidth feed:
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( Oct. 24th, 2009 12:08 am)
Here! Have a very distressing link about the sex-trafficking of aboriginal women and girls in Canada.
This is really fucking horrifying, just FYI.
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( Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:24 pm)
First, a Cute Picture.
I believe it's called "Jesus Loves the Little Goths". Thoughts? Commentary?

Via Naamah_Darling:
One more reason why the US "health care" system is really, really, really fucked up. This will make you really freaking mad. Note: Deals with "rape as a pre-existing condition" and, as such, may be triggering for you.

From Corey Doctorow:
Now, you all know I'm all for hiring sex workers[1]. But was this really the right time and place for a corporation to shout "lapdances for all"?
Yahoo hires lap-dancers to entertain at its open, inclusive Hack Day event. 'Cause all the guys are Obviously Het and all the gals are Obviously Non-Existent. Wonderful. :-P

From FWD/Forward:
< ahref="">The Negative Side of Possitive Thinking. I linked (I think) to a similar post by Naamah_Darling a few days ago[3], but this sums it up really nicely, too.

From Geek Feminism:
Yesterday was Ursula K LeGuin's 80th Birthday! Have we mentioned that she's frikken awesome? :-D
Note: Amazon would like to read her latest book, Lavinia. I think the title character sounds cool. ;-)
Related Link: Breaking Into the Spell - an interview with Ursula K LeGuin. :-)

From Caveat Lector:
The sickening grunch -- About what it *feels like* to get cat-called (especially unexpectedly).

Department of Random:
Scatter the Seeds and Stand Back -- On growing amaranth from seed. Apparently it's really easy to thresh (albeit winnowing is a bit of a pain 'cause the grain is really, really light).

- Amazon.

[1] Although I don't know how strippers get hired in Taiwan or how voluntary their employment may be, as this varies not only from country to country, but from person to person.
I don't know how many of those particular gals think about their jobs in terms like "Sweet! I get to make a mint doing something I enjoy!" vs how many of them are doing the work because their families sold them off to pay the rent[2].

[2] Which may or may not happen in Taiwan, but does happen in, for example, Thailand and Laos.

[3] LJ only.
Of Wolves and Women -- Naamah_Darling's take on the similarities between how our culture(?) treets wild animals, especially large carnivores, and how our culture treats us.

From The Nation:
Reflections on Marriage.

From The Guardian:
Seeding a Safer World -- Hillary Clinton on Food Security, small farms, and infrastructure.

From Blogging While Feminist:
Heterosexuality, Intercourse and Rape,
Feminism, Lesbianism, Class and Race.

From Hoyden About Town:
Mother of Merciful Fuck, What the HELL??? Intersex Australians who need to take Androcur get put on the national sex offenders' list for life. EXCUSE ME?????

From Shapely Prose:
Would It Kill You to be Civil -- On that awful XKCD strip that ran in early October.

From Fetch Me My Axe:
On Women who have the Gaul to be "Unfuckable". Covers fat-hate, racism, anti-feminism, and all sorts of other stuff.

From The Curvature:
Judge Refers to Convicted Rapist's Actions as "Rough Play" -- Stuff that will make you cry and/or rage.

From Questioning Transphobia:
Trans Virgin Marys and Other Such Heresies -- An LTBG organization in Spain released a religious calendar featuring trans women as various classical images of the Virgin Mary. It was a tad controversial. The QT article talks about trans bodies vs cis bodies and how that relates to western/xian/etc notions of sacred vs profane. Go read.

From The Angry Black Woman:
Verb Noire Call for Submissions -- Seeking original works of genre fiction (science fiction/fantasy/mystery/romance) that feature a person of color and/or an LGBT person as the central character.

Thorn Magazine submission guidelines (a magazine about "Paganism in the Silicone Age"). Takes all sorts of different types of submissions.

From Youtube:
Too Big For My Skin -- A spoken word piece on motherhood and beauty.
"Rise" by the Flobots -- Because Commodorified likes it. Also, I agree that the mingling of U.S. nationalistic symbols with black!flag/Anarchist symbols is very effective.
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( Oct. 12th, 2009 11:09 am)
Two links:

Shweta_Narayan would not like John Ottinger III to Shut Up. More stupid, self-entitled white men in SF wanting the rest of us to stfu. Goody. This is a signal boost.

Two from Questioning Transphobia:
London trans activists call for boycott of sham demo on October 17th (via Hyel).
Trans Suicide Prevention - two PDFs worth of information, suggestions, dos and donts, contact numbers, warning signs and the like to help keep yourselves and/or people you care about alive and not in despair.

And one from Shakesville (via Tithenai):
Rape Culture 101.

In other news:
I've sent notes to my Toronto photographers checking studio/shoot times, and have started hunting for a place to stay while I'm in Toronto over Hallowe'en weekend.

I feel (vaguely) like I've accomplished something today.

Still no closer to getting 2000 words done on my story, but some of the other stuff is in the works.

Go me. :-)

Also: Apparently it's National Coming Out Day in Belgium. :-)

- Amazon. :-)
Hey, look, a handy list of actors and actresses who are rape appologists!

That Appalling Petition. It is distressingly long. :-\

Am I surprised that Woody Allen is a rape appologist? No. (Though I admit that I'm not sure *why* this doesn't surprise me...)

Am I surprised that Whoopi Goldberg, Monica Belucci, and Penelope Cruz are rape appologists? You bet I am.
That's really upsetting. :-(

Some lists of actors and actresses who think Polanski should go to hell, but should go to jail first, are available here and here.

In other, rape-related news: Essence has a good commentary on Hosfra and Duke University, low instances of actual charges being laid by rape victims, and the likelihood of repeat victimization or repeat offense, particularly with regard to child witnesses.
Go have a look.
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( Sep. 30th, 2009 10:46 am)
Remember how pissed off I was (still am) about my not being able to donate blood? Well, no surprises here, but I'm not the only one (from Shakesville).

Also from Shakesville:
Her Reasons Are Not Yours -- On how The Public is reacting to the Roman Polanski thing.
On the RCC's continuing lack of any willingness to take responsibility for ordaining, protecting and enabling pedophiles. Goody.
After the Red Pill -- On Being a Feminist.

From Pandagon:
Note to conservatives: thanks, but your help is not needed -- More on RP, The Public, and "Who's Side Are You On".

From What Tami Said:
Marginalized folks shouldn't always have to be "the bigger persons". No kidding. Go read.

From The Angry Black Woman:
Dear Straight Cisgender People Who Are Showing Out -- Contains a variety of handy links plus a brief discussion on what "Ally" actually means.

From The Nation:
The Crusade Against Sex Trafficking -- On how sex trafficing[1] tends to get painted in an overly simplistic way.

From Feministe:
Puzzle Activity Time! -- More on RP. I keep hoping that people reading about this case are, somewhere in their heads, going "Hey... Really powerful, wealthy, adult dude... Thinks he can skip justice. That's not right!" We can dream. Personally, I'm with Idioglossia and wondering why the hell half of hollywood-and-beyond (Tilda?? Seriously??) is up in arms on his behalf. :-\
Getting Over It -- About having been raped at the age of thirteen, and what seeing all this coverage and public reaction over the RP case is like.
What does rape do to you? Afterward? It changed me; there is before and after. Before, a child, playing with Barbies, looking sideways at boys, wondering. After, confusion. Depression. A litany of fuck-ups and fuck-its, whatevers, mistakes, trusting no one, least of all myself.

- Amazon.

[1] Note: I don't know if this article is looking at all sex work as sex trafficing. Haven't read it. Did get a good review of it from the folks at Shakesville, though, and the excerpt they posted seemed to be talking sense. So I figured I'd toss it up here for people to see.


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