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I think we're going to have to turn the heat on in here pretty soon. :-P
(Every year, I try to make it to November and, every year, the last couple of weeks are a wrench to get through). :-)
Currently wearing a huge cotton/poly shirt over a snug-fitting cardigan.
It's making a world of difference. :-)
Anyway. What got accomplished today:
2) Visited Alex/Louis and sewed and designed clothes. As such:
2a) My Trin coat now has all of its buttons on again. :-)
2b) My black denim has been washed (and is probably dry by now) and, as such, is
properly shrunk for the making of xmas tote-bags. (I have quotations picked out
and everything!)
"Glorious are the Woods in their latest gold and crimson..." (for Mom's bag)
"There is a hunger to see the human presence acted out. As long as that need remains, people will find a way to do theater." (For Chris' bag)
3) Made plans to meet up with Lucie tomorrow at 1pm, and Ami_B at 4pm (well, a little after) for general chatter and catching up. Lucie is going to Delegate stuff to me. I have no idea what, but probably something to do with the Gaia Gathering. :-)
4) Made dinner (Woo... so impressive. But it was tasty! :-)
5) Cleared out the recycling and the compost. (Yay!)
6) Did a load of laundry (sadly, not two).
7) Purchased two sex books.
7a) Returned one. (See below).
8) Attended the Ottawa Slashers' Brunch.
This is weird. In the sense that I'm not quite sure what the point is. Possibly this is because most of what the rest of the women are into is (A) TV-based (shows I don't get and so don't watch) and (B) boy-based, whereas what I do is not TV-specific, and (usually) girl-based.
So a little part of me spent the time wondering, idly, "Why am I here?"
That said, it was a good time, and it was nice to get out and be social. :-) Also, the ladies are a lot of fun. (Seriously: If you've never seen a 60-year-old woman squeeing, I tell you: It is a thing to see. :-) Erika made puppets! :-D (That was pretty cool. You gotta love the crafty stuff. :-)
Anyway. I figure I will go again next month and see if the fun increases. :-)
9) Randomly ran into a co-worker while at said brunch. (Was able to warn her about the unfinished second window display, so that was good. She doesn't mind. :-)
Anywhoo. So that was my day.
Regarding the sex book(s):
In order to broaden the sexual spectrum of my marriage, give me something specific to communicate in the bedroom and, incidentally, to help me teach my husband how to expand his definition of 'sex', it has been suggested to me that I should go out and get a sex book or two.
So... I went shopping.
I dropped in at Chapters at about 10am this morning, and picked up:
"The Everything Book of Tantric Sex" and "Lube Jobs".
The tantric sex book seems mostly okay so far.
The "Lube Jobs" book, however, was very disappointing.
By which I mean it was totally not what I expected.
See, "Lube Jobs" advertises itself as a woman's guide to 'maintenance sex' (basically quickies). Given that Paul and I are usually fairly tired when we find time to get into bed, quicky sex that doesn't suck and/or hurt sounded like a good idea to me. Plus, it does say "woman's guide" and "Lube" in the title. I figured it would be a book of "here, madame, are some fun and interesting suggestion on how to make quicky-sex pleasant and appealing to yourself", possibly even including some suggestions for the reader's spouse about how to keep the reader in question regularly interested.
HAHAHAHAHAHA.
I am so naive.
:-P
No. The basic premise of "Lube Jobs" is as follows:
"It is your wifely duty to satisfy your husband's sexual needs, even though you don't really feel like it tonight, and even though he's not actually doing anything to woo you into being interested."
This is stated fairly explicitly in the introduction, but also implicitly through such marvelous anecdotes from the husband-and-wife authors as:
For the first month that our dangerously premature infant was out of intensive care, The Wife had to choose stay-at-home-momhood (rather unexpectedly, apparently) due to not being able to find daycare for a child who was at serious risk of contracting a fatal case of pneumonia (trading in her day-scheduler for daytime TV, hahaha).
When The Husband got home from work every day, rather than greeting him with a kiss, The Wife would march him into the bathroom to scrub off any possible germs he'd brought into the house.
The Husband was feeling neglected and forgotten - having to play second fiddle to an infant who needed intense amounts of 'round the clock care.
After this horrible month of no sex, The Husband and The Wife sat down and a had a long talk about how The Husband was feeling forgotten.
...
Now, nowhere in this anecdote is it stated what The Husband was doing to support The Wife in her suddenly very different, significantly higher-stress, career role.
Which, y'know, would be something to bring up, if it happened.
Instead, the focus of this was on The Wife having to figure out how to Satisfy Her Man, despite the fact that she had no energy (or inclination - hello, stress levels and exhaustion will do that to anybody) to do so.
Disappointing.
Also: Table of contents: There's a chapter on fellatio. There is no corresponding chapter on cunnilingus. In a book about maintaining one's (presumed het - this is written in the states) marital sex life, one would expect to find chapters on both.
No such luck.
So, yeah. I was disappointed. Back it went (At 2pm this afternoon).
The gal who did my return happened to be the gal who did the sale in the first place. She was very nice and professional about the whole thing. :-)
Anyway.
Back to studying for tomorrow's government test.
Wish me luck and think good job-thoughts for me. :-)
- TTFN,
- Amazon. :-)
(Every year, I try to make it to November and, every year, the last couple of weeks are a wrench to get through). :-)
Currently wearing a huge cotton/poly shirt over a snug-fitting cardigan.
It's making a world of difference. :-)
Anyway. What got accomplished today:
2) Visited Alex/Louis and sewed and designed clothes. As such:
2a) My Trin coat now has all of its buttons on again. :-)
2b) My black denim has been washed (and is probably dry by now) and, as such, is
properly shrunk for the making of xmas tote-bags. (I have quotations picked out
and everything!)
"Glorious are the Woods in their latest gold and crimson..." (for Mom's bag)
"There is a hunger to see the human presence acted out. As long as that need remains, people will find a way to do theater." (For Chris' bag)
3) Made plans to meet up with Lucie tomorrow at 1pm, and Ami_B at 4pm (well, a little after) for general chatter and catching up. Lucie is going to Delegate stuff to me. I have no idea what, but probably something to do with the Gaia Gathering. :-)
4) Made dinner (Woo... so impressive. But it was tasty! :-)
5) Cleared out the recycling and the compost. (Yay!)
6) Did a load of laundry (sadly, not two).
7) Purchased two sex books.
7a) Returned one. (See below).
8) Attended the Ottawa Slashers' Brunch.
This is weird. In the sense that I'm not quite sure what the point is. Possibly this is because most of what the rest of the women are into is (A) TV-based (shows I don't get and so don't watch) and (B) boy-based, whereas what I do is not TV-specific, and (usually) girl-based.
So a little part of me spent the time wondering, idly, "Why am I here?"
That said, it was a good time, and it was nice to get out and be social. :-) Also, the ladies are a lot of fun. (Seriously: If you've never seen a 60-year-old woman squeeing, I tell you: It is a thing to see. :-) Erika made puppets! :-D (That was pretty cool. You gotta love the crafty stuff. :-)
Anyway. I figure I will go again next month and see if the fun increases. :-)
9) Randomly ran into a co-worker while at said brunch. (Was able to warn her about the unfinished second window display, so that was good. She doesn't mind. :-)
Anywhoo. So that was my day.
Regarding the sex book(s):
In order to broaden the sexual spectrum of my marriage, give me something specific to communicate in the bedroom and, incidentally, to help me teach my husband how to expand his definition of 'sex', it has been suggested to me that I should go out and get a sex book or two.
So... I went shopping.
I dropped in at Chapters at about 10am this morning, and picked up:
"The Everything Book of Tantric Sex" and "Lube Jobs".
The tantric sex book seems mostly okay so far.
The "Lube Jobs" book, however, was very disappointing.
By which I mean it was totally not what I expected.
See, "Lube Jobs" advertises itself as a woman's guide to 'maintenance sex' (basically quickies). Given that Paul and I are usually fairly tired when we find time to get into bed, quicky sex that doesn't suck and/or hurt sounded like a good idea to me. Plus, it does say "woman's guide" and "Lube" in the title. I figured it would be a book of "here, madame, are some fun and interesting suggestion on how to make quicky-sex pleasant and appealing to yourself", possibly even including some suggestions for the reader's spouse about how to keep the reader in question regularly interested.
HAHAHAHAHAHA.
I am so naive.
:-P
No. The basic premise of "Lube Jobs" is as follows:
"It is your wifely duty to satisfy your husband's sexual needs, even though you don't really feel like it tonight, and even though he's not actually doing anything to woo you into being interested."
This is stated fairly explicitly in the introduction, but also implicitly through such marvelous anecdotes from the husband-and-wife authors as:
For the first month that our dangerously premature infant was out of intensive care, The Wife had to choose stay-at-home-momhood (rather unexpectedly, apparently) due to not being able to find daycare for a child who was at serious risk of contracting a fatal case of pneumonia (trading in her day-scheduler for daytime TV, hahaha).
When The Husband got home from work every day, rather than greeting him with a kiss, The Wife would march him into the bathroom to scrub off any possible germs he'd brought into the house.
The Husband was feeling neglected and forgotten - having to play second fiddle to an infant who needed intense amounts of 'round the clock care.
After this horrible month of no sex, The Husband and The Wife sat down and a had a long talk about how The Husband was feeling forgotten.
...
Now, nowhere in this anecdote is it stated what The Husband was doing to support The Wife in her suddenly very different, significantly higher-stress, career role.
Which, y'know, would be something to bring up, if it happened.
Instead, the focus of this was on The Wife having to figure out how to Satisfy Her Man, despite the fact that she had no energy (or inclination - hello, stress levels and exhaustion will do that to anybody) to do so.
Disappointing.
Also: Table of contents: There's a chapter on fellatio. There is no corresponding chapter on cunnilingus. In a book about maintaining one's (presumed het - this is written in the states) marital sex life, one would expect to find chapters on both.
No such luck.
So, yeah. I was disappointed. Back it went (At 2pm this afternoon).
The gal who did my return happened to be the gal who did the sale in the first place. She was very nice and professional about the whole thing. :-)
Anyway.
Back to studying for tomorrow's government test.
Wish me luck and think good job-thoughts for me. :-)
- TTFN,
- Amazon. :-)
