![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
From Fugitivus (via Cereta):
Rape Doesn't Happen In a Vacuum.
Hella triggering. Also hella true.
Note 1: The post is about men raping women and the social dynamics that let it keep happening. It's a good, reasonably susinct, and very accurate piece. I really want people to read it.
As in: I think this is good enough to ask you to signal-boost it. Read it, and if you think it's good, please link to it. I want this to be found.
Note 2: What it *doesn't* talk about is how those same social dynamics play out when men rape men or when women rape anybody.
Things like:
"But... I'm a *guy*. I'm supposed to want sex *all the time*. What's wrong with me that I don't want it now?"
OR
"But I can't call it that, because that means betraying one of our own. It'll just play into stereotypes about [dykes being sexually dangerous] / [gays being obsessed with sex], and it makes us *all* look bad."
OR
"But... women are *passive*. We/They *can't* rape. So why do I feel like that's what's happening?"
Which are *also* really fucked up.
The "Men = sexually aggressive / predators" vs "Women = Sexually Passive / prey" trope that is so fucking deeply entrenched in our culture (and in my fucking brain!!!) is screwing us all over mightily.
It drives me up the fucking wall, and I hate it. >:-(
<*flails with flailing flails of flail*>
I don't know what else to say about that right now.
As such, please go read that post.
And this one: About how sex-after-someone's-said-no is all the threat a rapist needs to keep a rape victim from fighting back. Also triggering. No surprises there.
And this one. It's about rape jokes and what they're "for". Also triggering.
<*snarl*>
Unrelated Link from Shakesville: Trans-Mysogyny. Part of an ongoing series about the trials and travails of being trans. Go take a look.
- TTFN,
- Amazon.
Rape Doesn't Happen In a Vacuum.
Hella triggering. Also hella true.
Note 1: The post is about men raping women and the social dynamics that let it keep happening. It's a good, reasonably susinct, and very accurate piece. I really want people to read it.
As in: I think this is good enough to ask you to signal-boost it. Read it, and if you think it's good, please link to it. I want this to be found.
Note 2: What it *doesn't* talk about is how those same social dynamics play out when men rape men or when women rape anybody.
Things like:
"But... I'm a *guy*. I'm supposed to want sex *all the time*. What's wrong with me that I don't want it now?"
OR
"But I can't call it that, because that means betraying one of our own. It'll just play into stereotypes about [dykes being sexually dangerous] / [gays being obsessed with sex], and it makes us *all* look bad."
OR
"But... women are *passive*. We/They *can't* rape. So why do I feel like that's what's happening?"
Which are *also* really fucked up.
The "Men = sexually aggressive / predators" vs "Women = Sexually Passive / prey" trope that is so fucking deeply entrenched in our culture (and in my fucking brain!!!) is screwing us all over mightily.
It drives me up the fucking wall, and I hate it. >:-(
<*flails with flailing flails of flail*>
I don't know what else to say about that right now.
As such, please go read that post.
And this one: About how sex-after-someone's-said-no is all the threat a rapist needs to keep a rape victim from fighting back. Also triggering. No surprises there.
And this one. It's about rape jokes and what they're "for". Also triggering.
<*snarl*>
Unrelated Link from Shakesville: Trans-Mysogyny. Part of an ongoing series about the trials and travails of being trans. Go take a look.
- TTFN,
- Amazon.
